A cat, and especially a kitten the little cat will play, be curious about everything and try some experiments … which will sometimes make you lose patience!
“Educate” a cat/kitten, requires love, discipline, patience, and self-control! But a good education promises you a most enjoyable life with your little cat.
I personally have a principle that I call basic education. That is simply to make sure that my cat or kitten does not bite, does not scratch, and lets himself be manipulated. When it is “acquired”, you then avoid a lot of problems, and you can treat it without any problem.
However, I insist on the word “education” between quotes …
“You can train a cat to bring back a stick, we can also train the stick to come back alone, it’s faster.”
I like this Canadian proverb! In fact, do not be fooled: we can not give too many bans to a cat. And when I talk about education, I’m mainly talking about teaching him (if it was not done by his mother because he was not adopted too soon) his self-control, which means globally not to scratch or bite. …
To be manipulated
I suggest you handle your cat the earliest and the “more” possible.
But beware !! Handling a lot does not mean harassing !!
Go always with gentleness and assurance because it is not necessary that your cat undergoes.
Get used to putting it on your back and hold it with your hand. Smear his belly (you’ll soon know if it’s the kind of caresses he likes or not, in the meantime, he will “tolerate” a little …), look at his ears, gums, have him open mouth, etc. In short, he takes the habit and realizes that even if he will not love it, it does not hurt him.
You have to do this kind of manipulation two or three times a day, for a very short time.
Similarly when you have to give him a drug, try to do it in a time when the cat is calm, nor playing or late fighting with a congener for example! And if he is very angry during the treatment, come back later!
Don’t hesitate, if the veterinarian does not give a contraindication, to give a treat to the cat after the treatment, so that he accepts more this painful moment.
No scratching no biting
When it’s kitten, we find it cute and funny to play with him at the fight; his little fangs are practically harmless, and his claws tickle you almost …
But when the kitten becomes adult it becomes very much less fun! Over time, this habit will become a frustration for you (because you will not be able to cuddle it quietly), or even fear (to approach him to treat him or leave him in the same room as a baby for example) ). Just because your cat will get used to it, because YOU will have made it a habit.
Rule # 1 so: NEVER PLAY WITH HANDS OF A KITTEN!
If, however, you adopt a kitten that has not been weaned enough, or has taken a bad habit, here are some things you can do:
– The best thing to do to start is to accentuate a big Which will surprise your cat. Eventually, he will understand that he must go soft!
– “We don’t bite!” / “Not claws”: if he bites, we say “we do not bite” in a firm and assured voice. Without shouting, because the cat should not feel assaulted. He will not understand the sentence itself, but the tone of this sentence, the tone used, associated with what he has just done, will make him understand that there is something he must stop!
For claws, same principle, except that you replace “we do not bite” by “not claws! ”
– “stop” on the nose: we use the pulp of the index. We agree no more pressure than our fingers that click on a mouse! The cat does not squeak! It is once again rather to surprise him. You can associate this with a small, firm “no”.
– Divert his attention and/or ignore it: whatever technique you use, do not hesitate to throw a toy to the kitten, it will divert his attention.
You tell him that, yes, you play with him, but no, not with your hands! And if he returns to charge to your fingers or toes, ignore him and leave the room.
Finally, when he obeys you, congratulate him, with a “yes it’s good” in a voice
“Babyizing”, with or without caresses or a treat.
In any case, we do not punish !!! Punishing, shouting, typing, will only stress the cat more … which will have the effect of accentuating his behavior (or even creating new ones that may not please you either!).
If your cat bites you or claws during a hug session, it is called the “caress-bite”. In this situation, you only need to be attentive to the signals that your cat sends you. In fact, when you stroke your cat, you feel like he likes it: he purrs, he rubs his head against your hand, he licks you, he gently pushes you with his paw …
Unfortunately this is not synonymous with well-being, but instead, they are requests for you to stop! In desperation, your cat ends up biting or scratching you, so that finally the caresses stop.
So you have to respect his signals.
Sometimes the cat likes to lie on your lap, but does not want to be caressed!
Set your limits
Regarding his “other bad habits”, such as going on a work plan, I would say that before wanting to lose a bad habit to your cat, the best is obviously not to make her take it!
Be clear first with yourself: what do you allow? What do you not allow? Set YOUR limits! I can not tell you if they are good or bad, they correspond to you. Choose and avoid changing your mind along the way because otherwise the habit will be taken!
Do you still ask if you can override?
To give you a personal example, I do not like animals calling for food when I’m at the table. Yet I gave in once; I found his trombine so cute that I gave yogurt to one of my cats. Since then it’s a habit he has taken, and even today when the yoghurt pot is open, he reapplies and I give him a little. I gave in once, and instead of going to war ad vitam aeternam I wondered if I really wanted to fight for a little yoghurt? No. So I made a cute little funny ritual.
But if you realize that no, you do not want him to do that or that … nothing is lost!
Arm yourself only with patience, because your cat too will be very patient.
What can work:
“No !”: if you have taken this habit of “no” firm and assured very early in the life of your cat so try this at first. A “No” closes (without shouting) as soon as he makes the mistake, of course, do not pursue it screaming “no!”.
Do not be discouraged, he will certainly try again!
The famous technique of “pschitt!” : alala … this technique has been around the world, and often … it does not work! “I used the vaporizer technique but it did not change anything! Worse, there is more! In fact, it often does not work and often tends to accentuate the problem. Why? Just stupidly because it is very badly used this technique! In fact, the key to success is that your cat should not know that you are the one who is watering it! It may seem silly and yet … Too often the person comes back with his big hooves shouting “no !!!” and by watering the cat on his muzzle … It is purely and simply an aggression for him … who will then, on the one hand, become hostile to you, but also be tempted to fight back.
The detector: In addition to being very badly used, the vaporizer technique forces you to be present. Outside you can not always be on the lookout for what your cat is doing! There are automatic vaporizers, “ssscat” for example, to place where you do not want the cat to go; thanks to a motion detector, he sends the cat’s passage a very strong jet of air that will frighten him and dissuade him from going back on it. The work plan becomes hostile, not you!
However, I say once again that we can not give too many prohibitions to a cat (let alone a kitten, which can not integrate everything). Be flexible.
Finally one last precision, which I will never remember enough: NO
TO PUNITIONS! Typing will only worsen any situation: the cat does not understand that it’s a punishment, he just understands that you’re attacking him !! The more you scream, tap your cat, the more aggressive, unpredictable, stressed, and uncomfortable and electric the home atmosphere becomes.